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210 Things that Someone Might Want to know to Get to know You Will Ask

Written by vpameena

There are certain things that someone might want to know to get to know you and one of the fastest means to achieve this is through good questions.

The most commonly asked questions include and is most likely “What do you do?”, “How’s it going?” or “How about that weather?” and it’s just plain boring and awful.

If you are someone like me who tries to figure out what is going on in the other persons mind, you might discover loads of good questions to ask to get to know someone on a deep level.

It is nice to ask the usual once in a while but it is also best to break the norm and get creative  by asking some intriguing personal questions to get to know someone This might seem absurd in the first place but as soon as the person gets comfortable with you, they’d be willing to share.

With that, here are 55 questions you might want to try:

  1. What’s do you think of life or what’s your perception about life?
  2. If given the chance, what’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself?
  3. Do you consider yourself religious or spiritual?
  4. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
  5. Which parent do you feel closest to the most and why?
  6. What phase of your life do you consider to be the best?
  7. Which phase was the worst in your life?
  8. Is what you’re doing now what you always dreamed of while growing up?
  9. What and when do you feel accomplished?
  10. What’s your favorite movie/book of all time and why do you love it so much?
  11. What is a relationship deal breaker for you?
  12. Are you more into brains or books?
  13. Would you ever take back anyone who cheated on you?
  14. How well do you like the idea of sharing your password with your partner?
  15. When do you think an individual is ripe for marriage?
  16. What kind of parent do you love to be?
  17. What would you do in a situation where your parents don’t like your partner?
  18. Who is that one person in your life whom you can talk to about just anything?
  19. Do you often remain friends with your exes?
  20. Has death ever taken someone close to you?

Wait…. Have you had enough of questions to get to know someone deeply? I thought not… Read on!

  1. When in a bad mood, do you prefer to have someone cheer you up or be left alone?
  2. What’s your picture of an ideal weekend?
  3. What do you think of best friends of the opposite sex and would you consider keeping one?
  4. Do you often judge a book by its cover?
  5. Are you shy or confrontational?
  6. When last did you break someone’s heart?
  7. Would you relocate for love sake?
  8. Have you ever written a journal?
  9. Name five things you are most thankful for?
  10. Do you believe in second chances? Would you be willing to give it when situation demands?
  11. What’s the one thing that people always get wrong about you?
  12. What is your idea of a perfect vacation?
  13. What lessons did you learn from your past relationship?
  14. What are your thoughts on Tinder or online dating?
  15. What’s on your bucket list this year?
  16. What moment did you feel your biggest adrenaline rush?
  17. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done and would you do it again?
  18. If a magical genie granted you 4 wishes right now, what would you wish for?
  19. What’s regret in life was your biggest?
  20. What do you think about when you’re by yourself?

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Questions To Ask Someone If You’re Just Starting To Get To Know Who They Really Are

  1. Does your current job make you feel happy?
  2. What profession did you want to practice when you were younger?
  3. Why and when did your last relationship end?
  4. What’s been the mistake you cannot forget in life and what did you learn from it?
  5. Where and what is your favorite place in the whole world to go?
  6. What are your top five all time movies you would love to never stop watching?
  7. What genre do you like and what are some of your favorite songs?
  8. What intriguing qualities do you admire in your parents?
  9. In one word, describe your best friend?
  10. What’s your best hobby to do alone?
  11. What thing do you love to do every day?
  12. What’s spontaneous thing(s) have you done lately?
  13. What’s the craziest thing you can ever do for love?
  14. What’s your favourite pet and which is your biggest pet peeve?
  15. Are you single and why do you think you’re still single?
  16. What’s your greatest accomplishment and why do you feel most proud of it?
  17. Name that one dream you have yet to accomplish?
  18. What is your life’s biggest fear?
  19. What three things do you value the most about a person?
  20. Who are five people you are closest with and name them?
  21. What is the most challenging struggle you’ve encountered and how did you overcome it?


  1. If you could pick anywhere in the world where would it be?
  2. What’s the most exciting thing that’s happened this past year?
  3. Do you drink? What’s your favorite beer?
  4. What’s the one thing that troubles you most about the state of things in the world?
  5. Who are you closer to your dad or your mom?
  6. If you had the ability to change one thing about yourself what would it be?
  7. If you had a single wish to change one thing about the world what would it be?
  8. Who was your favorite teacher and why?
  9. What sport do you still practice?
  10. What is the weirdest thing about you?
  11. What was your longest relationship?
  12. What would your best friend say is your uniqueness?
  13. Do you have a figure you love? Who is your favorite historical figure?
  14. What made you choose the college you went to?
  15. If you could tell your old self one thing right now what would it be?
  16. What food do you need to survive?
  17. Dogs, rabbits or Cats?
  18. What’s closest you’ve ever come to being arrested?
  19. What was your best birthday experience?
  20. Name one thing you wish you knew how to do?
  21. Where’s that one place you’d like to go that you haven’t been?
  22. What was the last book you read? And When?
  23. Where and how often do you usually get your news?
  24. What are some personal goals you’ve set for yourself in the next 5 years?


  1. What would you consider your greatest accomplishment so far?
  2. If you could get away with anything that you do what would you do?
  3. Who is your greatest heroine/hero?
  4. What’s the greatest risk you’ve ever taken?

Questions To Ask Someone If You Want Them To Bare Their Soul

  1. Why are we here? and what do you hope to achieve?
  2. Do you think you would make heaven if you died today and it were real?
  3. Do you believe in destiny, purpose and fate?
  4. How do you see yourself in the eyes of people?
  5. If you had the ability to wipe off an error that you made in the past, what would it be?
  6. What song stirs up unconditionally happiness in you?
  7. If you suddenly had the ability to have anybody else’s life, who’s would you take?
  8. Name one fictional character that you most relate to?
  9. Imagine you were 5 year old and I asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up, what would you say?
  10. What is your greatest irrational fear?
  11. If you could teleport us anywhere in the whole universe right now, where would you take us?
  12. What regret is your biggest?
  13. If you gave up the ghost tomorrow, what action would you wish you had done?
  14. Do you mind sharing the moment in your life where you were the happiest?
  15. What song puts you in a sad mood?
  16. If past lives were real, what would yours be?
  17. Have you ever witnessed a scenario you can’t explain?
  18. What is your works biggest accomplishment?


  1. If you could do one thing without getting affected by the consequences, what would You do?
  1. What is the weirdest dream you’ve ever had?

Questions To Ask If You’re Ready To Know and Dig Even Deeper

  1. What are some of the darkest thought you’ve ever had? What about the darkest tales you’ve never told any person?
  2. Is there something or someone out there, an idea, a thought, a current event, a past one or a fear that you gets you deeply unsettled?
  3. What would you say your deepest fear is or are? (This question can really unveil the depth or lack thereof of a person.)
  4. Is there an activity that calms you? Perhaps, a thing or place that makes you feel at ease?
  5. What set you unease? Anxious? Overwhelmed?
  6. What is your most loved song and why?
  7. Do you have a favorite book? A line in a piece of poem, drama, prose or literature? Why do you relate to it?
  8. What scene in a movie has awakened the most feelings out of you?
  9. Where do you go to? Or what do you do when you need to be alone?
  10. What makes you feel like you need some peace and quietness or need to be alone?
  11. Can you recollect a period in your life you felt the most alive? Tell me everything about that memory.
  12. When have you felt so downcast in your life?
  13. Where and when have you felt the most failure? The biggest success?
  14. Tell me about the harsh truths or facts that you choose to ignore but know you shouldn’t.
  15. When have you felt like you were living life to the fullest? When have you felt like you weren’t?
  16. What is the first lie you ever told any person? Which did you tell most?
  17. What is the first secret you ever kept from any human? Which is the most bothering?


  1. Are you a spiritual or religious person? Tell me how and why.
  2. Has your political beliefs changed overtime? Is there something that might have caused these changes?
  3. When and where do you find meaning in your life?
  4. Have you ever been in love? Met a special person? Tell me about the times you have been.
  5. Tell me about the times someone broke your heart and why.
  6. How did you cry the last time you did so? What caused it?
  7. Have you ever shed heart felt tears of joy?
  8. What did you do when you hurt someone so bad?
  9. If your life was a book or movie what would be the title inscribed on it?
  10. When have you done the biggest harm to yourself?
  11. What has been the boldest step you took that resulted in the biggest change ever made that made you the most proud of yourself?
  12. The people you love the most in your life, what do you do for them?
  13. Is home for you a feeling or place? Describe that feeling or place.
  14. If you had the chance to be anywhere other than where you are right now, what place would you choose and what would you be looking at?
  15. Have you ever thought you’d go insane and why?
  16. What childhood memory do you cherish the most?
  17. Have you in any time had dreams about a past life?
  18. Have you had any recurring nightmares or dreams?
  19. Do you believe more in fate, chance, luck or that we are the creators of our own destinies because we take decisions based on our free will?
  20. Do you believe in a celestial life or extraterrestrial life? Explain why or why not.
  21. Do you find it more comforting that we were the most advanced species in outer space or would you just believe that we aren’t?


  1. What would you say if you were presented with irrefutable evidence that a god didn’t exist? What would be your reaction if you were presented with undeniable evidence that a god did exist?
  2. What do you think existed before the world came into creation?
  3. Do you believe in parallel universes and other dimensions?
  4. How would you define art?
  5. If you had the power of eliminating pain from your life would you choose to do so? Why or why not?
  6. Is a life full of pleasure and (no suffering) worthwhile?
  7. What do you think happens during and after death, if anything?
  8. If you had the privilege to hear the date of your death would you want to know it?
  9. Given the option to be immortal would you take it?
  10. Would you rather be love or loved?
  11. How do you see and define beauty?
  12. Where does happiness come from? Can you create it? Define what happiness means to you.
  13. Can you say you are truly free? If so, why? If not, what do you think is holding you back?
  14. Deja-vu: is it all just a coincidence or there is more to it?

Unconventional Questions That Will Help You Get To Know Someone

  1. What was your mother or father like at home? How does she or he act different outside of family?
  2. If you were given a list of a thousand ways to die, which would you choose?
  3. Tell me a really, certain dumb joke that made you laugh one time.
  4. Pick two out of physical looks, chemistry, religious compatibility, lifestyle compatibility and intellectual compatibility.
  5. If you were forced to vote in one of these dictators, (Hitler, Mussolini, Mugabe, Mao, Saddam or Stalin), which one would you vote for and why?
  6. Show me a scene from a movie (film) or music (sound) track that made you tear up.
  7. If you could own any type of animal in the world as a pet, which would it be and why?

  1. If you were presented an opportunity to explore the oceans, visit 50 different countries or go to outer space, which one you choose and why?
  2. Do you think that men think more with their brains and women are just more on the emotional side?
  3. Which negative emotion (greed, anger, jealousy and hate) affects you the most?
  4. Which positive emotions (compassion, positivity, enthusiasm and initiative) is your biggest strength?
  5. If you could be President of your country for 30 minutes, what is the one thing that you would most certainly change?
  6. Describe your first kiss and the emotions that came right after.
  7. Has another’s pain ever given made you happy or fulfilled? Be totally honest.
  8. Tell me your most important strength outside of your workplace.
  9. If you were given a choice to die or turn into a zombie, which would you pick?
  10. If you had to pick just one, what important value you would teach your children? Courage, Honesty, or Kindness?
  11. Are you conscious of your health?
  12. Name one bad quality you can bear in a partner.
  13. Name the one worst quality you cannot stand in your better half.
  14. Tell me your biggest paranormal or supernatural fear?
  15. If you got a free cheque for $10,000 right this second, how would you use it?
  16. Name one shocking thing that sets your heart pumping and gives you an adrenaline rush.
  17. Tell me about the moment you were so embarrassed in love, you wished you could disappear that instance.
  18. Have you ever had trouble sleeping? What do you do before it comes?
  19. What is your biggest love regret that made you wish you could turn back the hands of time?
  20. Do you believe in simplicity or materialism?
  21. If you were coerced to pick one religion on this planet, which one would it be and why?


  1. What is the most loving and romantic thing you have ever done for another person?
  2. What would you say is the most adventurous thing you have ever done?
  3. What’s your day-to-day secret mantra?
  4. What quote speaks to you the more than any other?
  5. What’s your anti-motto?
  6. What trait do you wish you had?
  7. What skill do you envy in others?
  8. How do you wish to be remembered?
  9. In five words, how would your best friend describe you in five words?
  10. How would you summarize your life purpose?
  11. If you could spend an hour in someone else’s shoes, whose would they be? Why?
  12. What’s one thing either of your parents taught you that completely changed your life?
  13. What’s been on your mind lately?
  14. What’s the first career you dreamed of practicing as a kid?
  15. What’s the last text you composed and sent?
  16. What’s one of your strangest memories?
  17. What’s one thing about you that surprises people?
  18. What, or who, was your biggest teacher?
  19. What was something you’ve done that made you feel extremely happy?
  20. Knowing what you know now, what advice would you give your 16-year-old self?

Building a relationship takes time. The first few interactions should be used to create some chemistry and build some good rapport. If you can create sparks of curiosity in getting to know the other person more, you’ve succeeded. Choose any of these 210 questions to things that someone might want to know to get to know you for your next interactions, and see what feels real and successful to you in easing and speeding new relationships process. Also, don’t rush someone with questions. When you ask, sit relaxed and listen deeply. Any questions that come after should be a natural follow up to their response. These are helpful pointers, but follow the path that the conversation takes.

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